You’re Trapped in a Room for a Year. Who Do You Want in There With You?
I hope you are having a good week!
Imagine this: You’re locked in a room for a year with one person shaping your thoughts, decisions, and confidence.
Option 1: Your worst enemy.
They’ll whisper:
“You’re not qualified.”
“What if you fail?”
“Who do you think you are?”
Option 2: Your best friend.
They’ll champion you:
“You’ve got this.”
“What’s the best that could happen?”
“You’re more capable than you know.”
Who you choose determines who you become.
After a year with the enemy? You’ll feel drained, small, and stuck.
After a year with the friend? You’ll walk out unstoppable.
Here’s the truth:
You’re already in that room.
The voice in your head is your roommate. You hold the key to decide who stays.
My Story: How I Switched Roommates (And Changed My Life)
A few years ago, I desperately wanted to shift my full-time corporate career to part-time to spend more time with my kids.
But my inner “critic” hissed:
“This isn't how this company works. They’ll think you’re lazy or disloyal. You’ll look foolish.”
For months, I let that voice win—until I asked myself:
“What if my best friend were here?”
She’d say:
“If you don’t ask, you’ll never know. The worst-case? Nothing changes. The best? Freedom!”
So I asked. And guess what? They said yes!
I became the first senior executive in my company to work part-time
The lesson?
Your inner narrative isn’t fate—it’s a choice.
The Science of Self-Talk
Did you know?
72% of self-talk is negative.
But those who shift to positive self-talk are 42% more likely to achieve goals.
Your mind isn’t fixed. It’s a garden.
As Jay Shetty says:
“What you feed it determines what grows.”
Your Tool: The 3-Step Roommate Switch Method
(Your exclusive framework to reclaim your narrative)
1. Spot the Inner Critic
Action: For 3 days, journal every fear-driven thought.
Examples:
“I can’t take financial risks.”
“I’m not good enough to lead.”
Why it works: Awareness strips the inner critic's power.
2. Hit Pause, Then Rewrite
Action: When doubt strikes, snap your fingers (yes, literally!) and ask:
“Is this my inner critic—or my ally?”
Then, rewrite the script:
Inner Critic: “I’ll fail if I start my own business.”
Ally: “I’ve navigated uncertainty before. I’ll figure this out.”
3. Amplify the Ally
Action: Create a daily “Ally Mantra” tied to your goals.
Examples:
“I am bold enough to bet on myself.”
“My courage outweighs my fear.”
Repeat it aloud every morning. (I know it sounds cringe but it really does work!)
This Week’s Challenge
Evict one inner critic thought.
Example:
Inner Critic: “I’m not experienced enough to change careers at this stage.”
Ally: “My diverse skills are my competitive edge.”
Ready to Change the Locks?
If “am I good enough?” loops or fears are holding you back, let’s chat.
Reply to this email to explore 1:1 coaching or join my Dare to Dream Membership—where we replace self-doubt with unshakable confidence.
Final Thought
As Michelle Obama says
“Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own.”
Own your narrative. Choose your roommate wisely.
